A lady once came to the evangelist Billy Sunday one day and tried to rationalize her anger. “There’s nothing wrong with losing my temper,” She said. “I blow up, and then it’s all over.” “So does a shotgun,” Sunday replied, “and look at the damage it leaves behind!”
Anger is common amongst everyone. We all have emotions that sometimes get carried away when we are offended by another. Some of us have longer fuses than others, but anger is an area in which we all have to watch. Failure to do so can lead to all kinds of hurtful and destructive actions, especially toward those who we love the most
In most cases anger is not very hard to control, even with those who are known to have a bad temper. For example, the majority of people are able to control anger when they desire to maintain a certain appearance before others. It is amazing how a person can turn off the appearance of anger when they are concerned with what certain people may think. Often times those vented upon are those closest, such as a spouse or child. This says much about what one may really care about. Actions speak louder than words.
What can we do to overcome problems with anger? First we need to understand that all anger is not wrong. In fact the Bible says, “Be angry and do not sin” – Ephesians 4:26. This means that we can be righteously angry toward sin and sinfulness. This is the example of the Lord Himself. Throughout the Bible we see God’s righteous anger toward sin. This does not mean that we act out in violence verbally or physically. The more we have anger toward sin, the more we will refrain from it
Second, don’t let the sun go down on your anger. “Be angry and do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil an opportunity.” – Ephesians 4:26-27. When we fail to deal with it that day, we give the devil opportunity; it becomes a burr which eventually leads to bitterness and a constant source of contention. It is a stone in a wall that we build one brick at a time when we do not forgive.
Third, hold your tongue, Proverbs 10:19 says, “When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” If you have nothing good to say, don’t say it. As the Bible says, “Do not be eager in your heart to be angry, For anger resides in the bosom of fools.” – Ecclesiastes 7:9.
Fourth, stop it before it starts. Proverbs 17:14 says “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” You may not be the one who is angry, but you may be the one to turn it around. Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Fifth, when you fail, confess it to the Lord, and go to those you offended and ask their forgiveness.
Sixth, memorize God’s Word and apply it, especially verses concerning anger such as Proverbs 14:17; 15:18; 19:11; 29:11,20.
Don’t let anger overcome you, overcome it, and remember. “He who is slow to anger has great understanding, But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.” – Proverbs 14:29.
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